Saturday 11 May 2024
Enjoy being at home.
Friday 3 May 2024
I am already there!
In a few days I will be turning 71. It's been a bumpy ride punctuated with bursts of hard work in raising 5 children punctuated with the misery of chronic illness adding to the joy.
I think it's normal to feel tired in your seventies, but when one has fibromyalgia, polymyalgia, heart disease, spinal problems, diabetes and pulmonary hypertension as constant companions, well- it makes me tired just thinking of doing the smallest task.
Lately I have been reflecting on my life and trying to simplify it even more than it is now. And I have done a few things to avoid feeling false guilt and perfectionism.
I have unfollowed all my online groups for cooking, housework and household tips and decluttering. I still do these things, but at a snail's pace. I don't have to add to my perfectionism by fueling it.
I have also unfollowed all my feeds for pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding as it tends to make me nostalgic for something that is no longer a part of my life.
Similarly, I have gotten rid of household check lists and calenders about homemaking routines. They never work for me as I am so often out of spoons due mainly to fibromyalgia flares.
All my married life I have written out meal menus but now that Chris is very often not hungry or at least is very picky, I must cook to adapt to his fancies for dining thus invalidating my menu plan..
Always an Aldi girl, I now shop for groceries totally online, visit my doctor via phone consult, order my prescriptions online and pay all my bills online.
I rarely leave the house these days. Everything is slowing down for me these days and I need it to stay that way.
Even with help once a fortnight for housecleaning, I find just running the home during the two weeks between cleans physically taxing.
As I said, I think it's OK to slow down when you age...and I am no longer like the fairy godmother... managing my home easily and without much effort.
I just have to accept that like the fairy godmother I am not getting old: I am already there!
Monday 29 April 2024
It's not about how fast we spin our wheel
But that doesn't mean that resting will make it better. Nor does it guarantee that you will gather more spoons to use when you rise up from your sickbed.
When you are chronically ill, you don't get better and rest definitely doesn't leave you feeling refreshed and full of energy.
The most rest can do for us is give us a temporary respite from forcing ourselves way beyond our comfort zone to serve our family.
Needing to rest can make those who don't understand chronic illness to make us become the victim of nasty retorts stating that we are lazy and putting it on in order to take to our bed.
Being that fibromyalgia is one of many invisible illnesses, we are often maligned as malingers and the angst that this creates can cause us to become depressed as well as angry.
We didn't ask to be sick and most of us in fact push ourselves way beyond our comfort zone to prove to ourselves and others that we are not lazy.
I think as fibromyalgia is often a prolonged illness that we would do well to take thoughts of others directed at us to be taken into the captivity of Christ Who doesn't condemn us but Who loves us at all times.
He understands and doesn't condemn us. We have to take His Word that He loves us as we are.
We need to learn to switch off from those who condemn and criticise us for taking frequent breaks and nana naps. We know we are doing the best we can and our worth is not about how fast we spin our wheel.
Wednesday 24 April 2024
Play it in your own time!
As we shared before, I am supposed to be getting help in cleaning our home. But it has turned into a mess and I have fallen in the cracks. There was a woman who came for three weeks, but she was woefully indolent and a liar.
Tuesday 16 April 2024
A boring home life
Saturday 13 April 2024
Russian roulette
I hear so much about having a rest or nana nap when it gets really bad, but any Fibromite will tell you that you often wake up worse than before and your muscles feel like it's early morning again.
It's a game of Russian roulette to take a gamble of feeling better after a nana nap. Waking up can go either way.
Are you willing to gamble reliving morning muscle pain again? Lotsa luck!
Thursday 11 April 2024
I'm a plain Jane!
Each morning when I get dressed, I wonder what the day will bring. I have learned over the course of time that those days when I have a pyjama day, something crops up and I have to don days clothes in a hurry. So I try to get dressed early in the morning.
Wednesday 10 April 2024
A permanent thing
Sunday 7 April 2024
It's gonna be a PJ's day.
Monday 1 April 2024
She was right!
Saturday 30 March 2024
It's a double whammy!
I am flat out resting today, trying to cope with the pain of a flare of fibromyalgia and polymyalgia rheumatica.
Honestly, it's hard enough coping with fibromyalgia flares, let alone PMR as well. And to make it more difficult it's Easter and there are no doctors available, and it doesn't seem to be urgent enough for ER.
Usually PMR fizzles out after about 5 years, but I have had it on and off for 20, often at first mistaken for fibromyalgia.
My doctor told me that often it leaves the sufferer with neck and shoulder arthritis, but rarely, it can last a lifetime. Lucky me.
The treatment for PMR is prednisolone but I am wondering if I should take it without my doctor's permission. I have to remember that it elevates my sugars and they have already gotten higher without it.
After a miserable night's sleep, I took a Tramadol which has helped a little. I took paracetamol as a baseline.. I will most likely have a nana nap soon.
The fibromyalgia is making my knees and back ache and where that lies off, my neck and shoulders and jaw with pounding headache take over thanks to the polymyaglia...
All in all, I am a mess and tired of feeling like this... PMR and fibro are bad enough separately, but this is the worst of all- a double whammy!
Friday 15 March 2024
Sitting down brings no comfort
Over the years of chronic illness, I have noticed that what used to be a reward for spending spoons and being proactive was in having a comfortable place to sit.
Gradually the places that once gave me a comfortable sitting have become objects of pain. My armchair, couch or sofa, typist chair, dining chair and car seats have all become places of torture and there's no reward or rest found in them.
Like wise, my bed also yields no comfort to my fibro effected muscles or my spinal pain.. it can't be the furniture's fault.
I think the fault lies in my allodynia which is pain on the lightest of touch. It is often a part of fibromyalgia and/or diabetes neuropathy. There is no cure.
I cannot take many tablets that are commonly prescribed for fibromyalgia, such as Lyrica so I have had to find something that helps with the pain.
With both peripheral neuropathy from diabetes and fibromyalgia, and with constant knee pain, I find the only time I can completely relax is when I am lying on my couch and Chris is rubbing my swollen feet. The swelling is from heart failure.
The massage seems to distract the nerve path that interprets pain and replaces it with a pleasurable sensation, allowing me to often drift off to sleep.
I know it's sad that a foot rub is the only help for me at this stage of my life, but it is what it is. And it is good for me as sitting down brings no comfort.
Tuesday 12 March 2024
Cooking with fibro plus fibro bloggers' tips!
Here’s what works for my fibromyalgia blogger friends
- Cynthia from The Disabled Diva shares her top tips
- Shelly from ChronicMom blog shares her #1 recommendation
- Australian Sacrificial Home Keeper on tricks to help cooking
- Mandy and Michele on their preferred medication
- Lee Good, who is discovering what works to help Fibromyalgia at Fibro Files
- Katie from Painfully Living shares what’s worked for her
- Sue at Rebuilding Wellness blog shares her top tips
- Carrie shares her top tips at My Several Worlds blog
- Bettina shares what works for her in the hope that it will work for you
- Nikki from the Brainless Blogger shares her top tips
- Bethan from Hello Fibro Blog shares what she’s learnt since diagnosis
- Cynthia from My Inspired Fibro Life shares her tips
- Donna over at Fed up with Fatigue writes about the beneficial fibromyalgia treatments she’s used since diagnosis
Wednesday 6 March 2024
It was good while it lasted!
Wednesday 28 February 2024
He's getting very rusty!
Wednesday 21 February 2024
I am not lazy!
Usually by the end of the day, you will find me resting in my recliner rocker or in bed. Especially when I have a fibromyalgia flare or a bad day with breathing difficulties.
Apart from the usual taunts such as "but you don't look sick" and the need to validate my need for rest, I find that the latest taunt is "you are so lazy!"
But appearances can be deceiving. If I were truly lazy I wouldn't even be resting or pacing myself in order to do a household task or cook a meal. I wouldn't even be entertaining the thought of cleaning or cooking.
People presuming to know my situation are often getting it all wrong. And it used to hurt. But these days, I have decided to let it run off my back like water off a duck.
I no longer let those unkind remarks get to me... Chris and I know the truth and that's all that matters.
Like looking well when I feel like death warmed over, resting to enable a task to be done does not mean I am indolent or don't care about my husband or my home.
Taking care of myself in order to take care of others may appear selfish. But nothing can be further from the truth: I am not lazy!